I’ve had lots of conversations with friends and fam lately, about life and love. Out of every conversation has come some very insightful and intriguing ideas. I’m still struggling with “follow your heart” vs. “protect your heart”, and everyone always tells me to just follow my heart and do what feels right. Supposedly just doing what feels good in your heart with actually protect your heart in the long-run… We’ll just see about that.
But, seriously, I’m getting pretty certain about one thing: you can’t protect it and follow it at the same time. So I’ll just have to decide which tactic I’m going to take, and go with it. There are pro’s and con’s to both… like:
PRO: Following your heart will make you happy.
CON: There may be speed bumps along the way.
PRO: Protecting your heart will keep you from getting dumped or hurting another person.
CON: Protecting your heart will keep you from having any meaningful relationships, which means you’ll never find “the one”.
And so on. There are more pro’s and con’s, but I think you get the idea.
I’m leaning towards “follow your heart” because trying to be in control of my emotions has been very exhausting of the past few months. I think it’s just time to go with it, and let whatever happens, happen. Stephanie’s facebook profile has a good quote that I think will be my theme-quote for a while: “You must live each day as it is your last because you do not know what the future brings.” That’s important to me. I don’t want to withold love or friendship, and then wake up one day to realize that I’d missed my chance at a really awesome relationship. I don’t want to hold off on doing something (like traveling, taking a class, or that spur of the moment walk along the canal) in case I never have the chance to do it again.
Soooooo. I’m going to stop worrying about the “what if” and enjoy the “right now”. I’m going to take each day as it comes, do whatever I want, whenever I want, follow the things that feel good, and enjoy each second of each day. Like Kraig said, “It’s like Golf, you gotta play stroke by stroke.”