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I totally have writers block. I feel like I need to write, but have no idea what to say.
I guess I’ll just treat this like a “Dear Diary” journal. Today is a beautiful day. It’s very warm for March, and the sun is peaking through the clouds. Charlie and I took a walk at lunchtime, and I’m thinking about getting him out for another one. I plan on attending a fitness class at LA Fitness tonight. Jason and I joined the club 1 month ago. I can’t say that I’ve been going regularly, but I have been going. I need to go more. My goal is to go 4x/week. I started off very strong, but then felt sick and skipped a week.
I’ve started a spiritual journal. Again, I know I should write something, but have no idea what to say. I think that I’m a stronger writer in the mornings, however lack the discipline to get up early and hammer out profound thoughts. I would love to get in the habit of getting up early to do my Bible Study homework and journal. Maybe tomorrow will be the first day I accomplish that.
I have a handful of really great friends that I love dearly. I wish I spent more time with them. That will be one of my priorities this year — spending quality time with dear friends. I’ve already stopped playing Cafe World, and next on the list is Farmville. I also plan on limiting TV and Internet usage in the evenings. I want to have plenty of time to spend building relationships.
Jason is always at the top of my priority list in life…. however I just relaized that maybe I’m not honoring that priority like I should, since he asked me to tend to his laundry today and I just noticed the dryer has been off for over an hour. *Oops*
This list is inspired by the post “Top 10 Lessons from the Decade from Hell” on BNet.
- Getting away from family to attend college is the best decision you can make for yourself. Not only do you learn how to navigate the real world around you, the time you spend away from your annoying family members teaches you how to love them no matter what.
- Living in a sorority house teaches you the true meaning of “roll with the punches”. You appreciate it and still live that way 10 years later.
- Putting up with the worst traits a person can have does not equal “true love”. Or even real “love”. It just means you’re too lazy/scared/stupid to end things before they get bad.
- Be a student of Life, before you rack up the student loans. You’ll learn more about what you want to do in life after the age of 24… 25… and 26 than you could ever even guess to be your “passion” at the age of 18.
- Know what’s going on in the world, even if you are in the “safety net” of college — what’s happening now will impact your paycheck and standard of living in 3, 5 and even 10 years down the road.
- “The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.” – The Paradoxical Commandments by Kent Keith
- Always speak up. Even if your idea isn’t the final decision or the best out there… at least you gave people something to chew on, and likely gave them reason to ask for your input in the future.
- Always have a hand in your future (see above note). Even if you can’t completely control it, at least you tried. You don’t want to look back 10 years from now thinking, “Man, I wish I’d…” or “Dude, I should’a…”.
- Marry your best friend. You really need to like that person when all the exciting stuff dies down and you still have 50+ years to tackle together.
- Real leaders don’t have titles. You can always have a positive impact on someone else’s life, regardless of what position or role you are in, and most importantly… regardless of what your title is. And in the end, all that matters are the relationships you have with other people, so make the best of them and do good for others.
I found this article today, and thought it was great advice for anyone in a relationship.
Tips to Reviving Your Relationship
- Meet once a week to look at your schedules and set aside time for each other.
- At least once a week, plan a date night. Once a month, plan a date day (that’s right, a whole day from morning to evening). Once each quarter, plan a weekend get-away. Once each year, plan a week away together.
- Mark your planned time in your calendar, just like a dentist appointment or an appointment with a client. Write it in ink! Mark yourself out for a block of time.
- Take turns planning your dates each week.
- Do the grocery shopping and buy a bouquet of flowers for your partner.
- Write a love note and leave it for your partner to find.
- Take a break from watching TV and doing laundry or other chores. Go to bed early and share massages, talk, or cuddle.
- Turn off the TV, turn on the stereo and have a talk.
- Kiss your mate Good Morning and Good Night every day. Just say, “I love you.”
Alcohol has always been something I hold a small bit of fear towards. All my life, the loss caused by alcohol has been abundant. If you’ve ever had a drink…. or seven, you know about the loss of memory. People lose their keys… their temper… the contents their stomachs… sense of volume… the filter between their brain and lips… thier children, friends or other loved ones… their patience… their car… that shiny veneer of a new relationship as he takes a swing in your direction… their morals…. their virginity… and sometimes, their integrity.
So while the rest of you look back on last night with the slightest sense of enjoyment amongst all the drama, and wonder if your image is intact… I ask that you think about things from my perspective. I wasn’t even there, yet suffered a huge loss. I lost a long-time friend. I lost the years he and I have spent joking around, teasing each other, and being there for each other when things are at their suckiest. I lost any opportunity for raising children together, vacationing together, times of fun together, random dinners at Cheeseburger and bad karaoke. And on top of all that, I’m afraid I’ve lost my very best friend, his wife. It will be close to impossible to spend any time with her, knowing the huge canyon that now separates me and him.
So, just add one more item to the list of things lost because of alcohol.
I’m trying to do a better job of keeping up with my blog, so here’s the latest on my activities and interests:
Mondays I go to Indian Creek Christian Church in Franklin Township for a Beth Moore bible study on the book of Daniel. I absolutely love it. It’s the first bible study I’ve ever done, and I’ve learned so much!! This one lasts for 12 weeks, and we’re about 1/2 way done. I want to do another one whenever they do another. I also work from home on Mondays, so for a while I was doing Pilates with my mom, but it got too expensive for me…
Recently I’ve been working out at the office after work Tuesday thru Friday. I shouldn’t say “recently” as if it’s a habit. It’s not. It happened for the first time last week, and so it’s a very new “activity”. I am looking for gym memberships so that I can workout AND take classes, and not pay out the wah-zoo. If you have recommendations in the Franklin Township/Southport area, please advise.
So that’s about it. Jason and I spend much of our time on the couch, watching all the crap we’ve DVR’d. I watch Girlmore Girls on ABC Family every single day. I mean it. Every day. I go nuts without my daily serving of Gilmore Girls.
Charlie is a nutcase, but cute as can be. No matter what he does, you still think he’s adorable and talk babytalk to him. For example, today I was trying something new with him and he made a mess on the carpet. He knew he’d done a bad thing, and he cried REAL tears while he was doing it, but couldn’t stop! It was so cute! When he was done, he put himself in timeout in his kennel. How can you be mad at him?!? I can’t. So, he’s rotten and gets his way all the time. Right now, we’re teaching him “highfive” and we’re going to teach him how to “shake”. But not your typical “shake’, this is going to be way cooler. Just you wait!
I just had to shoo Charlie outta the closet. He likes to play in small spaces.
OK< I’m going to cuddle with Captain Awesome. Look for more updates, more often!
Oh dear! It’s been quite some time since I’ve blogged! I’m sorry for being such a slacker. Life hasn’t really been all that busy… just low-key. Nothing really to complain about, talk about, brag about, think about.
Work has been busy: I’m authoring a sales certification class, getting approval to implement a learning management system, updating the DT Spoon site, and working on a internal communications program. It’s hard to keep it all straight sometimes. I’m really struggling with focus and proper time management. Maybe I need to teach myself a class.. 😉
Home life has been good: I finally moved all of my stuff into Jason’s house last week. I now have a daunting pile in the garage that I’m slowly but surly working on. Most of it is junk I wanna sell, but stuff isn’t selling on Half.com or eBay. Charlie gets bigger everyday, still. He’s just over 5 months old and has the attitude of a teenager. Most of the time he’s cute; some days he’s downright ornrey. Captain Awesome is pretty much awesome all the time… except when he insists on sleeping on the couch. I need to let it go, but it totally bothers the crap outta me.
We have 75 days to go until the wedding! =) Just the other day it was 100… so pretty soon it’ll be 50.. then 25… then we’ll be flying out… landing… get the license… takin’ the elevator up to the top of the tower… and saying “I do”! AAAAAHHHHH!!!! =) Scary, but super perfect at the same time.
OK — that’s all I got for now. Gotta get some work done.
Sometimes when life gets really busy, I forget that my original purpose in signing up for stuff was to meet other people, learn something new, or engage myself in a new way.
I think a lot of us do this. Have you started feeling bored with your activities, annoyed with other participants, or generally disengaged from what you volunteered to do?
I bet some of you know what I’m talking about. When this happens, it’s time to take a moment to remember why you’re there in the first place.
By: Andrea Moore, CIASTD 2009 President
“You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestations of your own blessings.” — Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
Recently, I found myself feeling disconnected from a group I meet with one evening each week. I found myself placing blame on the group participants and thinking about aspects of their personalities that were not allowing me to connect.
Knowing, however, that I am responsible for creating the experiences of my life, I took a step back and reminded myself of the part I am playing with this group. I asked myself, “What am I doing to connect with these people?”—and what I realized is that I was not fully showing up with this group. Once I put myself out there and shared what I was feeling, the connection returned.
In what way are you participating in your life?Andrea is a senior consultant at FlashPoint, a multidiscipline HR consulting firm in Indianapolis. As a certified professional in learning and performance and a certified empowerment coach, she focuses on the growth and development of individuals, work teams, and leaders.
How can you take more responsibility for what you are creating?